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Lonely, but Not Alone (Written 01.13.21)
Don't tell me not to feel lonely. You don't know what lonely is. I've spent many moons dancing by myself, and solo sunsets staring into...
dearabi
Nov 17, 20222 min read


Do it for HER.
There's a trend going around where you put up a baby photo of yourself as a reminder to do things for that mini version of you. That kid...
dearabi
Sep 30, 20222 min read


How to Pack just a Carry-on for a 2 week trip.
After hearing about all the CDG airport lost luggage fuckery, I decided to take on the challenge of packing just a carry-on (and a...
dearabi
Sep 20, 20223 min read
Can I Take You Out Sometime?
I recently watched the movie Clean starring the ever so handsome Adrian Brody. In it, he has a conversation with his barber about how...
dearabi
Sep 16, 20223 min read
but she'll never be you.
She was Colombian and Thai. The one before her, French and Black - both dancers. And just like that, I felt so ... plain. It's silly and...
dearabi
Feb 22, 20221 min read


People Who Walk in the Rain.
I used to be afraid of the rain. I thought it would dissolve the facade of me being OK. Strip me of my smile and uncover a season of sad...
dearabi
Jan 10, 20222 min read
Sugar N Spice.
What are little girls made of? Sugar n spice, and everything nice. That's what little girls are made of. But women like me who were born...
dearabi
Dec 30, 20211 min read
Radical Acceptance.
I've been seeing a therapist on and off for a decade now. I've tried a few. From a hypnotherapist to a sex therapist to a cognitive...
dearabi
Jul 12, 20212 min read


I See You.
What a tragedy it is for you to not see the beauty I see in you. To be blind to the way your eyes widen and sparkle when something...
dearabi
Jun 28, 20211 min read
I Sea You.
There's nothing like the sea, to make you see. Just how small you really are. Not small like the grains of sand covering the beach Small...
dearabi
May 11, 20211 min read
The Audacity.
A few days ago I shared a story on Instagram about the time I moved to New York to pursue writing, yet told the cashier at Brooklyn...
dearabi
Apr 12, 20212 min read


Hit it on the Nail.
Fun fact: my mom didn't let me grow my finger nails until I graduated high school. She thought I was too young to. Sometimes, I'd get...
dearabi
Mar 15, 20212 min read


Putting the FUN, in Fungi.
I always wanted to try psychedelic mushrooms, but was too scared to have a "bad trip" considering my mental health journey. I've tried...
dearabi
Mar 8, 20212 min read
The Difference.
I knew I could marry my ex boyfriend when I knew I would be OK if we broke up. This doesn't mean I didn't think I wouldn't cry if we did....
dearabi
Mar 1, 20212 min read
Healing Fatigue.
I'm sure every single person that is reading this right now can agree with me when I say, "I. AM. FUCKING. TIRED". Tired of quarantining,...
dearabi
Dec 28, 20201 min read
Sexy, Accomplished, Vulnerable, Strong, Beautiful, and Loved.
In leggings and a sports bra. Right after yoga, pudge and abs all in one. NamaSlay. Walking around my clean apartment and watering the...
dearabi
Nov 9, 20202 min read
the light in me honors the light in you.
When I immigrated to the United States from the Philippines at the age of 2, I lived in a few different apartments in San Francisco. But...
dearabi
Oct 4, 20202 min read


Welcome to the new, old GATNB
Whether you've been rocking with me since I was "a pair of Christian Louboutins and fresh out the box Js all in one" or are new to the...
dearabi
Oct 2, 20201 min read


hell has no fury like a woman scorned.
And then the sky turned orange and it looked down on us. Muffled by the smoke it whispered, “I warned you”. We have failed her, and for...
dearabi
Oct 1, 20201 min read
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