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So Close, Yet So Far.

Mar 17, 2020
2 min

So Close, Yet So Far.

Day 1 of the official shelter-in-place policy is almost in the books, but the truth is I’ve been social distancing since the first week of March. Since then, the world has joined me and I’ve Facetimed with my best friend who lives 10 mins away (that I rarely see) twice in one week. My group text thread of girlfriends has never been more lit, and I’ve already had two virtual Zoom happy hours. I finally picked up a book that was indefinitely stuck on Chapter 3 since October, an

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When Death Becomes Us.

Feb 4, 2019
2 min

When Death Becomes Us.

When death becomes you, you will look back at old text conversations and replay the real ones in your head. And if you think hard enough, the rest of the world will fade away and you will hear her laugh as if she’s standing right in front of you. You will find every photo you ever took together and play back that day. You will look for signs and find ones that don’t actually exist. You will wonder why even though it shouldn’t matter and then you will think that you are more

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Sep 28, 2018
2 min

Nothing Compares to You.

We are often told not to do certain things. Yet, despite knowing the consequences – we do them anyway. One of these things is comparing yourself to others. Sometimes I do this without even trying and let’s be real here, we’ve all compared ourselves to others at one point or another. I am grateful to know many amazing women who are all successful in their own rite. So much, that it’s hard not to compare ones achievements, economic status, milestones, passport stamps, and if yo

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To Health and Back.

May 15, 2018
3 min

To Health and Back.

Over the weekend I hiked the 8.4 miles to Alamere Falls to get in some cardio, enjoy nature and yes – take an Instagram photo. While the trail itself wasn’t hard, I underestimated what 8.4 miles felt like and the view was underwhelming. Nevertheless, it was a good challenge and what I valued more than the quintessential “Look at me, I’m so active I hiked to a waterfall!” photo was my HEALTH. There were a few times during the nearly four hour trek that I gave gratitude to the

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“Behind every strong woman, are other strong women”

Mar 8, 2018
1 min

“Behind every strong woman, are other strong women”

We are teachers. Scientists. Models. Mothers. Sisters. Best friends. Girlfriends. Wives. Grandmothers. Engineers. Fashion Designers. Makeup artists. Politicians. Entertainers. Dancers. Dreamers. Healers. Believers. Magicians. Coaches. Athletes. Gold Medalists. Chefs. CEO’s. Janitors. Managers. Philanthropists. Stay at home moms. We are anything we really, really, really, want to be. We are Michelle Obama. Susan Wojcicki. Frida Kahlo. Olivia Pope. Emma Gonzalez. Victoria Manal

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Jan 23, 2018
2 min

The Sympathy Sads.

While perusing Instagram the other day, I came across a photo of a man I knew with his new girlfriend and my heart stopped for a split second. It had been years since I experienced that twinge of anxiety in the pit of my stomach, yet it felt just as vividly excruciating as I remember. Why did I even feel like this? I never dated this man, I barely knew him. We didn’t exchange kisses, or funny faces we made for only each other, or inside jokes, or memories. Yet, I felt that fe

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Dec 14, 2017
2 min

Choosey Lover.

Starting at a very young age, I practiced the mantra “Chicks before dicks” and always chose my friends before my boyfriends. Was there any other option? They were there for me before, during and after every beautiful disaster. I followed this even when it wasn’t always reciprocated. In time, I learned that this was the norm, this was life and I accepted it. The other day I got notice that my best friend’s birthday dinner was rescheduled to a night I had already made plans wit

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Nov 30, 2017
2 min

A Letter to Every Man Who Has A Girl Friend Like Me – TBT 11.28.11

Dear Friend of a Friend Like Me, I just wanted to say that WE’RE SORRY. Since you’re such an understanding person you’re probably thinking, “No it’s OK. Don’t be sorry” BUT LET US BE SORRY. Please. Because we know that we can be a bit much sometimes. And when I say “a bit,” I really mean, “a lot.” And when I say sometimes, I really mean a lot of the time. We also wanted to say THANK YOU. Since you’re such a generous person you’re probably thinking, “No it’s OK. You don’t hav

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Ain’t nobody fucking with my clique.

Jan 16, 2017
1 min

Ain’t nobody fucking with my clique.

It’s crazy to see how much my framily has changed since we had our very first friendsmas back in 2013. People moved, came back, got married, had babies, broke up, had more babies, and I … I … I’ve had at least 4 different hairstyles. At any rate, it’s always a treat to see everyone in the same room at the same time and I appreciate the people that take time out of their busy schedules to join us, what more fly out for this event. What I love most is how everyone gets so invol

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Know Maintenance Friends.

Apr 19, 2016
2 min

Know Maintenance Friends.

The above meme has been reposted on my social media feed by friends and acquaintances a plethora of times now. And why not? It’s a great message that gets to the core of what a true friendship is. Per usual, quality over quantity, so how you spend your time with your friends should matter more than how many times you actually see them. Right? I’d like to think so. I’ve known my “ride or die” since college, back when we would have class together and then call each other while

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The Walking Dead.

Nov 13, 2015
2 min

The Walking Dead.

I’ve always thought the best way to get in shape is to get your heartbroken. Either you’re too sad to eat and so desperate to keep yourself busy that the gym suddenly becomes an option, or you just want to look good in the event you run into your ex’s new whorebag girlfriend, or even better/worse your ex. That’s why I started running and doing yoga, but I kept running and doing yoga because I genuinely loved it. Thus, you should always do things for yourself. Not for the appr

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Yoloha.

Sep 9, 2015
2 min

Yoloha.

I visited the island of Kauai for the first time last week and must say … it was everything I didn’t know I wanted. For five days I was laptop, makeup, TV, and worry free (except for that one time I thought I was going to drown, and that other time I envisioned getting pummeled by a wild boar). I spent my mornings reading in a hammock, my afternoons baking on the beach, and my nights sleeping underneath the stars. But the majority of my trip was spent out of my comfort zone.

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Aug 21, 2015
2 min

To Do List: Live in the Moment.

A while ago I read an article about the importance of calendaring. As an Office Manager, I am obviously about that life. “To do list by themselves are useless,” it said. As someone who has yet to cross off a single item on my summer bucket list I can attest to this (learning how to swim can wait another year right?). However, I’m old school and always will be. While my Google calendar looks like the last moments of a losing game of Tetris, I will always refer back to my Daily

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Love You Times Infinity.

Jul 22, 2015
3 min

Love You Times Infinity.

During your viewing me and the girls all went up to your coffin to talk shit with you one last time. There, I asked that you visit me without scaring me. I suggested throwing a Cornut at me or something of that nature. Harmless enough. That night in my moms room, around the same time I received the text that you were gone, I sat straight up from bed and smelled flowers. I don’t remember exactly what kind, but the kind you smell when you touch down in Hawaii and get lei’d. I l

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Jul 1, 2015
2 min

The Trouble With Being Single.

I am officially the only single girl in the world. At least that’s what it feels like. I am however, the only single girl left out of my friends. That’s not to say they treat me any less of a friend. I’m just saying … I’m the only single girl left out of my friends, and that means I can’t connect with them about certain things. And I obviously won’t be invited to fancy double or even triple dates. But that’s not the trouble with being single. When you’re the only single perso

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A Friend Like Me.

Apr 14, 2015
2 min

A Friend Like Me.

I’ve said this a million fucking times – my friends are incredible. So much that I often wonder what on Earth I could’ve possibly done to deserve them. Surely, I don’t do enough. There’s rarely a moment when one of them isn’t paying for my dinner, or giving me a ride home somewhere. My friends are everything I’m not. Everything I wish I could be. And they always stick up for me when I bully myself. I often question how good of a friend I am. I look at the things I’m not able

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Forgiveness Fridays.

Mar 6, 2015
1 min

Forgiveness Fridays.

“Don’t let excessive guilt linger” | Guilt can be useful. In small doses, it alerts you to take action to mend a problem in your relationship with another person. But excessive guilt is toxic, in that it wastes your emotional and intellectual energies, distracts you from other tasks, and prevents you from enjoying life. One of the best ways to resolve lingering guilt is to offer an effective apology. Yes, you might have tried apologizing previously, but apologies are more co

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Feb 23, 2015
2 min

Live, Love, Let Go, and Let Die.

The worst years sometimes teach the best lessons, and I’ve learned a lot in the past 12 months. Some things new, and some things harsh reminders of mistakes I’ve already made. I’ve learned that some friendships only exist to serve a specific purpose. Whether they’re intentional or not, some people are put in your life for reasons other than a long-lasting bond. Either they teach you a lesson, or fill a temporary void until something or someone better comes along. Some people

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There’s Something About Mare.

Nov 18, 2014
1 min

There’s Something About Mare.

The most special of birthday wishes to my dearest Gail. Missing you now more than ever. Party it up boo, I heard there’s no such thing as a hangover in heaven. #fvckcancer #friendship #strongerthancancer #birthdays #betterthanlove #sisters #teamgail

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Nov 18, 2014
1 min

The Living Dead.

Sometimes I talk to the dead. I lay in her bed, and get my shoes dirty from playing with her sheets. I bring her trinkets, hoping they will amount to more than forgotten trash weathered by the morning mist. I water her flowers just in case she can actually smell them. You know, just in case. When I’m feeling optimistic, I hear her in the wind that sends the pinwheels spinning. I see her smiling in the sun that brings color to my face. And I feel her in the rain that tickles m

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