There are a lot of things I let bother me (I’m working on this). Something that never fails to get my blood boiling are people who use their past as an excuse to treat others like shit. In most cases, it’s a valid excuse, but at some point in your life you need to stop using the victim card to victimize others. A lot of people will realize this, yet continue to use their past as a crutch.
The saying is hurt people hurt people, but after a while that shit gets old and at my age it’s getting harder for me to empathize. Y’all need to grow the fuck up and be better, or you’ll spend your future living in the past, living with the pain, and ultimately – living alone.
We all have our reasons for acting the way we do, and we are all entitled to feel the way we feel. I’ve learned that you should never apologize for the way you feel, it’s what makes you, YOU. Your past makes you special, but it doesn’t make you better than anyone else. So if there are people who’ve experienced similar setbacks (and trust me, there are plenty) yet were able to overcome them, be better because of it, and NOT treat people like shit, you can do the same. To think any different is narcissistic.
Know that when I write this, I am also applying it to myself. I’m sure I’ve used my childhood to explain myself to … myself, and that’s exactly it. What’s happened in your past is only an explanation – not a justification.