Speaking of being honest, I got the best news one day. Someone that I thought about getting to know better told me, “I take relationships seriously, and value commitment. But I’d be foolish to think I could commit to one right now.” I wanted to grab this mans face and kiss him right then and there.
I’m about to bitch, but I really did appreciate the fact he brought it up to begin with. Except, I never asked for anything. Not an explanation, nor a “talk,” and definitely not any commitment. Because I already knew the aforementioned, and didn’t need to hear him reiterate it. And you know what Mr. Man Whose Honesty I Genuinely Appreciate Even Though You Lightweight Insulted My Intelligence? I GET IT. Men of the world? Believe it or not, but sometimes WE GET IT.
We get that you just got out of a relationship, and more than likely don’t want to get in another one any time soon. We get that you love coming and going as you please, and relish not having to check in or check out with anyone. We get that everyone’s “just a friend.” We get that we are also free to date whoever we want and you wouldn’t even flinch. We get that you are busy, and young, and handsome, and in your prime having the time of your life. We get that you’d be stupid to give that up right now.
But sweetie, you need to get that we get it. And we’re not mad, we have no reason to be. We’re just a little annoyed. Because it’s not always about you. It’s not about you telling us what you can do, it’s about us letting you know what we can’t.