Practice What You Preach
I found a link to a very enlightening article on my girl Kris’s page and felt obligated to share it with the rest of u guys. Especially since I’m running on E today and am too tired to write up anything original, what more be creative or witty lol.
I, myself plan on making a thousand copies of it and using it as wallpaper in my bedroom. I’ve been reading up a lot on Buddhism lately, and although I grew up Catholic I definitely find solace in the Buddhist beliefs. Without sounding like a complete granola eating Hippie – their ideals are based on peace and love. I can definitely dig it and I can definitely use it in my life right now.
The following are a few of my favorite excerpts. Although I definitely suggest reading the entire post here. It’s definitely worth it.
#2 Give people the benefit of the doubt.
It’s tempting to doubt people … Sometimes they may be hurtful and mean it … It will likely be when they are hurting and don’t know what to do with it … If u want to get good will, share it by seeing the best in the people u love. When u assume the best u often inspire it.
#6 Confront compassionately and clearly.
When u attack someone, their natural instinct is to defend themselves – which gets u nowhere. U end up having a loud conversation where 2 people do their best to prove they’re right and the other one is wrong. If u approach someone with compassion, u will open their hearts and minds … And when u let people know what u need at the right time in the right way, they’re more likely to give that to u.
#7 Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
There are all kinds of ways u can feel vulnerable in relationships … People don’t always do these things because they want to maintain a sense of power. Power allows u a superficial sense of control … vulnerable being allows u a sense of authenticity. That’s love: being ur true self and allowing someone else to do the same without letting fear and judgement tear it down.
#8 Think before acting on emotion.
This one is the hardest for me. As soon as I feel hurt, frustrated, or angry, I want to do something with it – which is always a bad idea. I’ve realized my initial emotional reaction doesn’t always reflect how I really feel about something. Initially, I might feel scared or angry – but once I calm down and think things through, I often realize I overreacted.
When u feel strong emotion, try to sit it for a while. When u learn to observe ur feelings before acting on them, u minimize the negativity u create in 2 ways: u process, analyze, and deal with feelings before putting them on someone else; and u communicate in a way that inspires them to stay open instead of shutting down.