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Happy Valentine’s Day.

I’ve always loved love. Even when it didn’t love me back. 

I tried so desperately not to, too. After every broken heart, ripped photograph and deleted number, I vowed to be a “bad bitch” that didn’t need a man … to no avail. It took a loooong time before I finally realized that that just wasn’t me. Oh, don’t get shit twisted – I was a bad bitch no doubt, but I was a bad bitch that wanted a good man. 

I’ve spent most of my adult years a single girl on Valentine’s Day. I watched my co-workers receive giant bouquets at their desks, and saw photos of my friends at dinner with their significant others. I loved it. All of it. No boyfriend? No problem. I still had my girls, and we celebrated love and relationshits over wine and pre-fixe dinners just the same. 

Yet, I still felt like something was missing. There was still void in my heart that unfortunately no girlfriend could fill. 

Today, I sit at my work desk in front of a dozen long-stemmed roses and a heartfelt card from my man, but I still empathize with being single, realistic romantic on Valentine’s Day. It sounds corny, but I looked around the office at my co-workers and hoped they felt happy and loved whether they had a significant other or not. Regardless of your relationship status, I hope YOU feel happy and loved, today, tomorrow, and always.

I want to make this very clear: there is nothing wrong with being single. There is also nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship. Your relationship status doesn’t determine your worth or make you any more or any less suitable for love.

If you’re single, don’t let failed relationships and those around you make you feel bitter. And if you’re in a relationship, don’t allow those who are bitter make you feel like you can’t celebrate the love you have to give and receive. It was never a big deal for me to NOT be in a relationship on Valentine’s Day, but it’s a big deal for me now that I’m in a relationship on Valentine’s Day. 

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