500 Days of Summer – TBT Post 08.11.09
After watching 500 Days of Summer Friday night, all my assumptions have been confirmed.
Every woman – no matter how jaded, hurt, or bitter. Every woman – no matter how confident or independent they are, wants to mean the world to another person and be genuinely loved. And no matter how much they may dispute, how much they may boast, or how high the walls around their heart may be, deep down inside they want to love that person back with just the same intensity.
I don’t care who the fuck u think or say u are.
Some women may not be as vocal about it. Some may even deny it. And every woman has their own ideal about the meaning of true love. But regardless of all the differences, all women want to experience being in love at one point in their life. And if not ALL women, a good 95% of them. It may not be their #1 priority, hell it may not even be their #10 priority, but somewhere down that long bucket list of to do’s and goals is “Fall helplessly, selflessly, unconditionally, spontaneously, irrevocably, inconveniently, head over heels, shout on the top of a mountain top IN LOVE … even if it’s written in the tiniest writing.
Even the most cynical of cynics can be easily swayed when they meet the right person. For instance, I know of this chick who brusied and beaten from past loves gone wrong, swore she hated the idea of a relationship and to some may have even come off as a “man-hater.” She was intelligent, beautiful, talented, and married to the hustle. But I couldn’t help but “pshh,” everytime I’d hear one of her anti-love rants ‘cuz she sounded exactly like me 3-4 years ago, which is why I knew she was woofin. But I was also empathetic ‘cuz I knew that tryna be a “hard rock when u really are a gem” defense mechanism all too well. Next thing u know she’s engaged with a baby on the way.
Perhaps Will Smith explained it best in the movie Hitch when he stated:
“Basic Principles – no woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!” Now, she might say “This is a really bad time for me,” or something like “I just need some space,” or my personal favorite “I’m really into my career right now.” You believe that? Neither does she. You know why? ‘Cause she’s lying to you, that’s why. You understand me? Lying! It’s not a bad time for her. She doesn’t need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she’s really saying is “Uh, get away from me now,” or possibly “Try harder, stupid,” but which one is it? 60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth. Of course she’s going to lie to you! She’s a nice person! She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings! What else she going to say? She doesn’t even know you… yet. Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn’t know what she wants until she sees it, and that’s where I come in. My job is to open her eyes. Basic Principles – no matter what, no matter when, no matter who… any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet; he just needs the right broom.”
So the next time a woman uses one of the above and then some excuses with u, don’t get mad, because more than likely she’s indeed telling the truth. She is really busy; engulfed by her fledgeling career, and enjoying her me time. Remember, one must love themselves before they can truly love another. But the fact of the matter is, no one is ever too busy. She’s just too busy for YOU. Even the President of the United States makes time everyday to have dinner with his wife and kids. She does believe in love (even if she doesn’t know it yet) she just isn’t in love with you.